LOVE vs fear

When I first saw this slide it was titled “Love based parenting vs Fear-based parenting.” Fear induces the release of stress hormones which over time has many negative effects. Ocytocin is our loving, bonding hormone which promotes optimal development, positivity, and connection. This visual displays vividly the continuum I feel in my heart, the dichotomy that exists in our society, and the constant conflict I face when I show others love-based responses. I understand how it may seem impossible to believe love-based responses truly work when you are in the grips of fear and perpetually stressed. One is constantly being triggered into a reactionary state when our stress buckets are full and our vital needs are neglected. Taking deep breaths and becoming mindful of our thoughts, feelings, and actions help us slow down and choose an appropriate loving and respectful RESPONSE to relieve stress and get everyone’s needs met. Feeling safe is VITAL for optimal growth and connection. Please fear less, LOVE MORE.

click link for the full webinar from Dr. Bryan Post and Helen Timpone:

Read books:

Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control

From Fear to Love

For more about ocytocin read:



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