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Positive Reframe is a positive shift in perception. It means embracing negative thoughts, feelings, behaviors or/and events to discover their value in our lives. It’s about making a conscious choice to focus on strengths, resources, and solutions to get emotional, physical, spiritual and relational needs met. It is an exploration of transferring our awareness from negative objects to positive intention whilst creating a compassionate and calm lens to filter life experiences through.

We all live in our current frame which has been influenced by lifetimes of experience, genetics, relationships and culture interacting within various environments and temperaments. All of these coalesce at each moment to influence our thoughts, feelings, and actions. When we experience stress and have unmet needs yet have no way to process the stress or get our needs met, then we have more negative thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and consequences.

Over time, a build-up of unprocessed stressful experiences create a negative perspective or a frame of reference for any similar situations.  When we get into a stressed state like feeling scared, confused, frustrated, or embarrassed, we often react from a this negative frame. The negative reaction can be as simple as snapping at your partner, parent, child or colleague. The negative frameworks we build form a complex web of behaviors with significant and lasting consequences, especially for our relationships and well-being.

Most of this negativity goes on without us even being aware of it (i.e. unconsciously), thus the first step to positive reframe is awareness of our negative thoughts, feelings, symptoms, and behaviors. The ideal moment for a positive reframe lies between the moment we become aware of the negativity arising and the moment we decide how to think and respond to the triggering event.

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response.  In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” ~ Viktor E. Frankl

When we can reframe a negative event like someone yelling at us, into a positive, loving and trust-based thought, “Wow, they must be having a bad day”  or “I wonder what has got them upset,”  instead of a fear-based and negative reaction like “What a jerk!” or “How dare they yell at me.” then we can transform our lives and relationships to cultivate wellness.

At Positive Reframe, wellness begins at an emotional level.  Emotions are our natural psychological and biological responses that bridge together our thoughts and actions. We have two primary emotions: Love and Fear. When something happens, our emotions determine our response. When you feel fear, you will fight, flight, or freeze. When you feel love, you will remain calm and be able to access your higher-level functioning skills so you may effectively process, understand and plan accordingly as well as connect and empathize. Our emotions depend on our needs, past experiences, beliefs, and temperament. When we find ways to positively process the stress and past trauma, we can then access our innate wisdom and strengths to heal, grow, and to positively frame our lives. Thus the goal at Positive Reframe is to empower you with the skills to tap into your innate resources and cultivate wellness.

 The Positive Reframe list below is meant to be a guide, a work in progress and an example of how we can learn to see “negative” behaviors in our loved ones more positively by viewing their behaviors from a different perspective and/or context. Every situation and person has unique needs, yet when we focus on the positive, we give power and opportunity for positive beliefs, feelings, traits and actions to manifest. Through Positive Reframes, we can empower ourselves to see the brilliance within ourselves and others.

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Click here to discover Five Steps to a Positive Reframe

You can find more information about my experience here on my Vita.

I’ve added a video counseling service called Breakthrough. Now we can meet wherever it’s most convenient for you. All you need is a computer and broadband internet access. It’s secure and accepted by major health insurance companies.

Please visit www.positivereframe.breakthrough.com to learn more. I can only see Illinois residents via Breakthrough

International clients can find me at https://www.ring.md/doctor_profiles/debra-wallace

If you have any questions please contact me:

Debra@positivereframe.org

847.603.4677   USA

09.950.7514   NZ

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Disclaimer

Positive Reframe shares resources with the intent of the positive progression of informed decision making related to issues associated with emotional, relational, physical and spiritual wellness. While I share personal and professional perspectives, my writings reflect my personal opinion and not intended to substitute professional advice, diagnosis, and treatment. The online medium does not lend itself to the level of detail and rapport building required for thorough assessment and therapeutic intervention. Thus the content shared on this page is for informational purposes only. To make well-informed decisions that best meet your family’s unique needs, I highly recommend exploring and researching available options, consulting primary health care providers, engaging in respectful dialogue with friends and family as well as seek referrals from a trusted source for professional counseling. I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapy in the state Illinois, USA

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