In the hustle of everyday life, it’s easy to lose touch with ourselves—our bodies, our needs, and our sense of calm. I encourage us to do something both powerful and simple: take a moment to pause.
The Power of the Pause
Every session begins and ends with intentional breathing. Inhaling deeply through the nose and exhaling slowly through the mouth is more than just a relaxation technique — it’s a moment of reconnection. It’s a return to the present and to your own internal wisdom. Wallace encourages you to notice what shifts inside: any tension released, any emotions that arise, or any stillness that surfaces.
This mindful breathing is an invitation to become aware of your nervous system, to befriend your body, and to tap into your innate resilience.
Mindfulness With Compassion
Somatic therapy, a body-centered approach that starts with mindfulness — paying attention to the present moment without judgment. She adds two more essential ingredients: compassion and curiosity. When you scan your body with these attitudes, you begin to notice not only stress but also what safety and peace feel like.
It’s not about pushing for positivity, it is called Positive Reframe, not because we be cheerful all the time, but because reframing how we experience even our darker emotions. Allowing ourselves to feel grief, conflict, or discomfort actually makes space for more joy.
Why Relationships and Systems Matter
Understanding that healing doesn’t happen in isolation. How we show up in these systems, and how these systems affect us, are both key parts of our mental and emotional health.
Yet, at the core of any therapeutic work is the relationship between client and therapist. “The strongest indicator of positive outcomes in therapy is the quality of the connection.”
Trauma, Triggers, and Glimmers
Trauma is often “too much, too fast, too soon” for the nervous system. Track both stress signals and safety signals — those moments of peace and pleasure call glimmers.
“Glimmers are the things that light us up. They’re nutrients for the soul.”
It might be a warm bath, a favorite song, a kind word, or a pet’s nuzzle. Identifying and increasing the dose of these glimmers builds resilience — the ability to bounce back and keep your internal light lit, even when the world tries to blow it out.
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