My Life on Hold

Too many unknowns

My heart split
On opposite sides of the world
I want to find a stable ground to call my own
To settle and finally have a secure home

Deciding feels like picking sides

My life on hold by Debra Wallace MS LMFT

I want us all to win
It isn’t even up to me
Then my mind scrambles
Through multiple dimensions

Knowing home and groundedness are within
That can never be forsaken and we are all connected
Seeking security and all knowns is impossible
Leads to certain suffering and erosion of joy

Yet I keep yearning and hoping a path with unfold
Someone will want to hold my hand through it all
The mess, the suffering, the confusion, the fear
Oh, and all those tears…

But the path is more about the how, the process
Not the what and the outcome
With who is irrelevant, as we are all ONE
The way is the way

Wisdom evolves in each moment
The future, a collection of nows
All I have is right now
I get to choose how to embrace

With compassion, trust, and gratitude
There is no perfect, only presence
Where joy and connection naturally flow
Spirit is always alive




Positive Reframe shares resources with the intent of the positive progression of informed decision-making related to issues associated with emotional, relational, physical, and spiritual wellness. While I share personal and professional perspectives, my writings reflect my personal opinion and are not intended to substitute professional advice, diagnosis, and treatment thus the content shared on this page is for informational purposes only. This online medium does not lend itself to the level of detail and rapport building required for thorough assessment and therapeutic intervention. To make well-informed decisions that best meet your family’s unique needs, I highly recommend exploring and researching available options, consulting primary healthcare providers, engaging in respectful dialogue with friends and family as well as seek referrals from a trusted source for professional counseling. I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of Illinois, USA.

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