11 Rules for Being Human

You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period this time around.

You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called life. Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant or stupid.

Growth is a process of trial and error: experimentation. The “failed” experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately “works.”

A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can then go on to the next lesson.

There is no part of Life that does not contain its lessons. If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.

When your “there” has become a “here,” you will simply obtain another “there” that will again look better than “here.”

You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself.

You have the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.

The answers to life’s questions lie inside you. All you need to do is look, listen and trust.

~adapted from IF LIFE IS A GAME, THESE ARE THE RULES: TEN RULES FOR BEING HUMAN by Chérie Carter-Scott~


Thank you for my wonderful mentor Barbara Wetzel MFT (author of  The Ergonomic Couple) who gave me this as my clinical supervisor. I have had a copy of this on my fridge at various stages of my life and would read one rule aloud daily to my family and self. I find them all so true yet #7 seems to be the hardest yet most enlightening. 





Positive Reframe shares resources with the intent of the positive progression of informed decision-making related to issues associated with emotional, relational, physical, and spiritual wellness. While I share personal and professional perspectives, my writings reflect my personal opinion and are not intended to substitute professional advice, diagnosis, and treatment thus the content shared on this page is for informational purposes only. This online medium does not lend itself to the level of detail and rapport building required for thorough assessment and therapeutic intervention. To make well-informed decisions that best meet your family’s unique needs, I highly recommend exploring and researching available options, consulting primary healthcare providers, engaging in respectful dialogue with friends and family as well as seek referrals from a trusted source for professional counseling. I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of Illinois, USA.

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