Rule 1: You will receive a body.
You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period this time around.
Rule 2: You will learn lessons.
You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called life. Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant or stupid.
Rule 3: There are no mistakes, only lessons.
Growth is a process of trial and error: experimentation. The “failed” experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately “works.”
Rule 4: A lesson is repeated until learned.
A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can then go on to the next lesson.
Rule 5: Learning lessons does not end.
There is no part of Life that does not contain its lessons. If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.
Rule 6: “There” is no better than “here”
When your “there” has become a “here,” you will simply obtain another “there” that will again look better than “here.”
Rule 7: Others are merely mirrors of you.
You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself.
Rule 8: What you make of your life is up to you.
You have the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.
Rule 9: Your answers lie inside you.
The answers to life’s questions lie inside you. All you need to do is look, listen and trust.
Rule 10: You will forget all this.
Rule 11: You can remember whenever you want.
~adapted from IF LIFE IS A GAME, THESE ARE THE RULES: TEN RULES FOR BEING HUMAN by Chérie Carter-Scott~
Thank you for my wonderful mentor Barbara Wetzel MFT (author of The Ergonomic Couple) who gave me this as my clinical supervisor. I have had a copy of this on my fridge at various stages of my life and would read one rule aloud daily to my family and self. I find them all so true yet #7 seems to be the hardest yet most enlightening.