A Positive Reframe on Grief goes from needing to be avoided and weakness to needing to be embraced and showing strength of love and connection.
We quickly after someone dies we get pressured to get over it and move on. But this is not that is not how grief works. We are biologically wired to be in relationships with people so when they are gone, it is going to affect you.
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Initially, it is all-consuming. We are in shock initially as our mind and body knows too much to bear at once and then it is and will come in waves, like tidal waves for like the first year. Everything you see that person touch can bring it all back again. The truth is that grief never truly goes away yet we grow and expand around the grief.
We tend to think feeling any big emotions is negative and should be avoided it is actually when we give ourselves remission to grieve and sit with all the conflicting and overwhelming waves of emotion that we actually honor our loved ones and integrate the loss of them and their legacy into our lives and feel their love. The loss of them and the grief is so big because it reflects the depth of your love and connection to them. If you didn’t love or care about them, then it wouldn’t hurt so much.
Important to note that grief doesn’t just come with the death of a loved one. It happens anytime we experience loss like what happens when natural disasters strike, when important events don’t go hoped, loss of a job, divorce, for a childhood you never got to have, even losing parts of yourself…Even if you chose the loss, there is still grief as you often had an attachment to core values or dreams and now need to grieve the loss of what you believed to be true or hoped for.
Grief knows no timeline, give permission to grieve and do whatever you need to feel Safe, seen soothed and secure. Focus on biological needs Deep breaths, baby steps, and nurture yourself through the conflicting and overwhelming waves of emotions.
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Positive Reframe shares resources with the intent of the positive progression of informed decision-making related to issues associated with emotional, relational, physical, and spiritual wellness. While I share personal and professional perspectives, my writings reflect my personal opinion and are not intended to substitute professional advice, diagnosis, and treatment thus the content shared on this page is for informational purposes only. This online medium does not lend itself to the level of detail and rapport building required for thorough assessment and therapeutic intervention. To make well-informed decisions that best meet your family’s unique needs, I highly recommend exploring and researching available options, consulting primary healthcare providers, engaging in respectful dialogue with friends and family as well as seek referrals from a trusted source for professional counseling. I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of Illinois, USA.